Finding friends generally as an adult is hard enough, let alone when you rarely leave the house.
There is no more school/college/uni/workplace in which you are forced to socialise and cling to what like-minded individuals you can find. You may also have found that all your old friends live in different, far away places because of university and jobs and family. Maybe you live in a different, far away place because of those reasons.
Just so you know, I’m not the queen of friendship over here; I’m okay at making them and I’m crap at keeping them, but I’ve come across some ways of finding potential buddies over the last few months and I thought I’d share them with you:
1. Use Facebook Groups!
This really is my number one way of finding friends. There are a huge number of Facebook Groups out there, so get out there! You could join local community groups, groups relevant to your work or industry, groups for people with the same hobbies as you. Be active in those groups; ask for advice and give advice, and reach out to connect with others.
2. Join a club
This is probably this tip everyone tells you, but it’s true. I’m not (currently) part of any club, but when I was younger I made loads of friends by joining my local amateur dramatics group! Meetup.com is great place for finding clubs and groups in your area.
3. Get a dog
No really though, not even kidding! Not only does having a dog actually encourage you to go outside and get some exercise, it is also a great way to make new friends. For example, you could join an obedience or agility class with your dog and make friends there, go to local dog shows and events, meet your dog-walking neighbours OR even join a Facebook Group based around the breed of your dog (we’re part of several French Bulldog groups on Facebook, and regularly go to meetups with our frenchie owners in Cornwall!).
4. Go to community events
All the fairs in the summer, Christmas markets and light switch ons, music events, pub quizzes – really anything! Yes, you may have to kick off conversation, but I’ve found it’s easy when you know you have something in common such as living in the same area.
5. Visit forums
There are loads of niche websites and forums out there for your hobbies, work industries and passions, where you can meet new people. Meeting people and making friends online isn’t always as weird as Catfish makes it out to be…
6. Take a course or class
Even if it’s just for an hour a week or an evening course, this is a great way to find people with the same interests and work ethic as yourself. You can even take a course online instead; there are lots of online courses that also have student forums and discussion groups where you can network and meet people too.
7. Twitter chats
Find out if there are any local Twitter chats and get involved with those (these are also great for finding out what’s going on in your town), or keep an eye out for Twitter chats related to your interests or job (eg. there are writer’s chats and lawyer chats – you name it!).